The Question You Need to Ask Yourself Before You Ask a Woman Out

"What is a good reason that a woman should say yes to going out on a date with you?"

I was scrolling Instagram the other day like the genius I am, and a Threads post popped up in the middle of the page, and you know how it goes from there; you click on the Threads app, and it immediately sends you to the dark back corner alley where all bad things happen.

Threads has quietly become a dating platform if you didn’t notice, and the things happening there are blowing my mind. It’s like the incel rate went up. And so did the rate of attention-seeking women. It’s completely out in the open there, with their Instagrams attached. It’s unsightly.

It’s like people found a dark alley in a back door of Instagram to hang out and do all the things they won’t do on Instagram because it’s frowned upon.

It’s precisely that dark alley in real life where bad things happen and you need to call the cops, lol.

Threads need to be regulated, but what can you do about it? What people decide to do with their Threads is their own business. I won’t really comment on what’s happening there, but I will say this: it’s absolute proof that women do use their social media to advertise, just as we suspected, and men fell for it hook, line and sinker.

I don’t post to Threads much; I experimented to see if guys have a chance to succeed there. When I say succeed, I mean, gather a following of people who like your content. I didn’t really try, but I found out that their hashtags work a little bit differently. You see, the usage rate for Threads is still small, so by using a hashtag, you are put in that community. Like a thread.

Now that we have context, we can move forward to what I saw next that had stunned me. 

How she was responding to things guys had been answering her question. 

I was intrigued, thinking “What the hell is wrong with these guys? Why would they say that?”

So, me being a glutton for punishment that I am, dove a bit deeper into this Thread of mean-spiritedness.

It is the human condition after all.

I clicked on one of the responses to get to the original post. This is what she had posted, and why I needed to explain for context earlier what is going on in Threads:

For fun - “Guys, tell me one good reason why I should say yes to going out on a date with you.”

Yes, that really happened. It happens all the time on Threads. It’s wild. Oh, the things I’ve seen there that make NO sense for a “social media platform.”

The guys' responses I will not post here, as I would be ashamed to do so. Of course, none of the responses I saw were noteworthy and I didn’t figure they would be, as no proper gentlemen would spend any amount of time interacting with women online, especially on Threads. She had a good time telling the guys how awful they were, I mean, this was to be expected as we hardly ever see 1) guys being gentlemen online for the sake of being gentlemen, and 2) women love taking sledgehammers to men online and will put themselves in a position to do so under the guise of “for fun.” Boys can be so gullible. Not a single guy in his right mind should have commented on that post, you know what that was. 

A call for attention. So that the attention could be shot down. 

It’s the same on dating apps. But that is a discussion for a different post.

Okay, now that we have context, I will say she actually helped me out a lot with that “for fun” question.

I felt like LethalShooter when he said, “I understand it now.” 

I sat in my chair looking at the question for maybe two minutes, and I couldn’t come up with an answer. 

I don’t believe there is one. The only reason that a woman should and would say yes to going on a date with a guy is that she has shown interest and is interested in going on a date with him.

That’s all. 

There is no reason a guy could possibly give that would cause a girl to go out on a date with him, especially if she doesn’t know him. That’s the stuff of movies and it doesn’t work that way in real life.

That is precisely the question that you should ask yourself when thinking about asking a woman on a date:

“For what reason should this woman say yes to going on a date with me?” 

If the answer isn’t “because she has shown interest in me and the chances of her saying yes are high,” then we probably shouldn’t be asking.

Because a gentleman 1) doesn’t pursue women for the sake of pursuit 2) is interested in women that are interested in him, and 3) isn’t looking to date just to date. A proper gentleman will allow a woman the opportunity to present herself as a lady would, then allowing him to take the first step.

Remember the foundations of building a strong, healthy, powerful bond with a woman. There has to be five key elements that match:

1. Mutual and matching availability

2. Mutual and matching capacity for love

3. Mutual and matching admiration

4. Mutual and matching interest

5. Mutual and matching desire for connection

Do you know what it takes to build a rapport with a woman for those things to be there?

Time is the first answer.

The second answer is that you must be handling your business as a man, because believe it or not no matter what social media says, a man handling his business graciously with quiet confidence is still one of the most attractive qualities that a man can show.

If you can’t answer that question in a way that makes you feel confident about approaching her to ask for her time on a date, don’t approach. 

Gentlemen don’t take wasteful shots.

A truly proper gentleman is patient enough to allow a true relationship to develop and won’t rush things.